Posted on Friday 23 February 2007
I was putting my Okapis to bed the other night and I was sitting with Jordyn, going over her Happy Thoughts. It was Sunday night and we had spent a lot of time together that weekend, just the three of us – including our Los Tres Amigos Sabado Saturday morning. We also had some time Sunday morning, which actually ended up being more enjoyable. I had already told them I didn’t have to go to work on Monday and we were all excited about the extra time.
As I kissed her goodnight she said, “I love you, Daddy.â€
“I love you, too, Sweetie Girl.â€
“Hey, I love you and you love me. Isn’t that great?!â€
“It is, isn’t it?â€
Then I moved over to Elijah and talked about his Happy Thoughts.
Afterwards, he had a question, “Daddy?â€
“Yes, Elijah.â€
“Maybe we could have more Los Tres Amigos time tomorrow?â€
“I hope so,†I smiled at him.
I think the most surprising thing for me about parenting, about becoming a parent, about my experience as a parent, is the wonder, the beauty, the pure joy I feel because of my love affair with my Okapis. I had no idea such feelings existed in this world. It is the biggest “missing piece†I never knew anything about before becoming a father. Being loved by one’s own children is like nothing I have ever felt, different than the love from my wife. It is unique and I am thankful Gem and I are building a family where it is easy and comfortable and normal to show and express our love for each other.
There are times, like that night, where it feels truly incredible to be my Okapis’ Daddy.
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